16.03.2022 - 17:35 Uhr
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Abenteuer Pflegefamilie: Kinder mit schwerem Gepäck

Nicht alle Eltern schaffen es, Verantwortung für ihr Kind zu übernehmen. Ist das Kindeswohl gefährdet, sucht das Jugendamt Pflegeeltern für den Nachwuchs. Doch Pflegefamilien müssen auch bestimmte Voraussetzungen erfüllen.

„Man wächst zusammen. Für meinen Mann und mich sind die zwei wie unsere eigenen Kinder und für unsere beiden Großen sind sie wie richtige Geschwister“, sagt Sabrina Hirmer (Name geändert).
von Christa VoglProfil

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